Rooming in means your baby stays in your room with you so you can become a family right away. Your baby is less stressed when he’s with you, and that leads to less crying. You also learn to care for your baby with help as close as the nurse’s call button. This makes going home much easier. What better way to begin your new life together!

It’s simple. Just tell your doctor and the hospital staff you want to keep your baby in your room with you. Here’s how to make it work.

Mom
  • During the day, take a nap every time your baby falls asleep.
  • Ask your champion to stay with you at night to help you.
  • Place your baby in the crib by your bed when he is in a deep sleep. It is not safe to fall asleep with your baby in your hospital bed.
  • Feed your baby when he shows feeding cues.
  • Push the nurse “call button” any time you need help.

Enjoy Getting to Know Baby

When you and baby stay in the same room, you get to know each other right away. Your family and friends can also spend time with you and the baby. Just remind them that you also need rest times so you will feel good when you go home.

Who Will Help You

The nurse will check on you and your baby often. Don’t be afraid to ask questions! This is a great time to learn how to care for your baby while you have help nearby. The nurse can also help you limit visitors so you can have time to rest and be with your baby.

Routine Tests

Tell your nurse you would like routine tests and procedures to be done in your room so baby can stay with you. If a procedure cannot be done in your room, tell the nurse you or the champion would like to go with the baby. Tell your nurse you want to hold your baby skin to skin when blood tests are needed. That way you can comfort the baby and help him feel less pain.

  • When I am away from you, I feel scared and alone.
  • I feel warm and safe when I know you are nearby.
  • I love getting to know you.
  • When I am hungry, I move my mouth and suck on my hands. After you feed me, I feel comforted.

Rooming-in is a time for both you and mom to get to know the baby!

  • Learn about breastfeeding and normal baby patterns so you and mom will be prepared.
  • While baby is in mom’s room, help keep the room quiet. This lowers baby’s stress so everyone can relax.
  • Tell the nurse to help you limit visitors and disruptions so baby and mom can get more rest. Ask visitors to wash their hands before handling the baby.
  • Stay with the mom at night to help her, if needed.
  • Enjoy holding and cuddling the baby.

The Power of Quiet

Once the baby is in mom’s room, friends and family will all want to see and hold the baby. You can help make the time special by asking that the room stay quiet. You can also try to make sure there are not too many people in the room at one time.

Helping Mom

Most new moms need help right at first. You can help her get in and out of bed. You can help change the baby’s diapers. You can also hold the baby between feedings and then take baby to her when he shows cues he’s ready to eat.

Mom’s Advocate

Tell your nurse you and mom want routine procedures to be done in mom’s room. Ask if the nurse will bathe the baby in mom’s room so you both can watch and perhaps help. Tell the doctor you would like for baby’s exams to be done in mom’s room. That way you both can see firsthand how the baby is doing.

When baby stays with you, he cries less. That’s because baby loves being with you more than anything!

  • Your baby knows you are his mom more easily.
  • You and your baby can cuddle any time you want while you learn to care for him.
  • You and your baby will rest better.
  • Baby will show you his feeding cues so he doesn’t have to wait when he’s hungry.
  • You will make more milk and have fewer breastfeeding problems.

Better Sleep

Some think moms get less sleep if baby is with them. But studies show that moms get MORE sleep when their baby is with them since they don’t worry as much.

Contented Baby

Your baby panics when he is away from you. He is too young to soothe himself, so he cries and becomes upset. When baby stays near you, he feels safe and more content.

Baby’s “Firsts”

When your baby stays with you, you won’t miss baby’s first exam or his first bath. You’ll see his first feeding cues that show you he’s hungry. You might even see his first smile as he gazes at you.

Help with Breastfeeding

When baby is with you, he learns to breastfeed more quickly. This helps you have fewer problems. You also make more milk sooner.

You are Tired

Let’s face it. All new moms are tired after having a baby. The good news is that moms say they get better rest when their baby is with them. Be sure to rest when your baby sleeps. Ask your family and your champion to help you.

You Had a C-Section.

If you have a C-section, it may be a little harder to get in and out of bed at first. Be sure your champion is with you to help bring the baby to you safely.

There is No One to Help

There are many people who can be a support person for you. If you do not have a “champion” who can be there the whole time, ask if a family member or friend can be with you for part of the time. If you need help, always ask for a nurse. They are here to help you get ready to care for your baby once you’re home.

Will I spoil my baby if I stay with him?

Many people think that holding the baby too often will spoil him. This is not true! Babies are born to be near their mothers. They have a true need to be held, comforted, and loved. When you keep your baby with you and hold him often, your baby feels loved and secure. This helps him learn to self-soothe as he gets bigger.

Will I have time for me?

When you room with your baby, you can still rest, use the restroom, or take a shower. Try to rest every time your baby rests. Ask a support person to be with you to help watch the baby.

Should the baby go to the nursery for blood tests?

Your baby will need many tests and procedures in the first days. The hospital staff can do most of these in your room. In fact, when you hold your baby skin to skin during these tests, you can comfort your baby and help him feel less pain.

Will my baby boy’s circumcision be done in my room?

Circumcision is a surgical procedure, so it is not likely that this can be done in your room. Tell the doctor you’d like to go with your baby, if you wish. After the procedure you will be there to comfort him.

Is it safe to handle my baby in my room?

The safest place for your baby is with you! Keep the baby’s crib right near your bed so you can easily get your baby in and out. If you feel dizzy, ask your champion to bring the baby to you. If you ever worry whether you can handle your baby safely, always ask for help.

I’m not sure I want to breastfeed.

Rooming-in is good for all babies and moms, no matter how they are fed. Every baby needs to feel warm and secure in the arms of his mother. And all moms want a baby who is happier and more content.
  • Educate moms about the importance of rooming in with their baby during prenatal visits and during the early postpartum period.
  • Support policies and protocols that enable mothers and babies to stay together during the hospital stay.
  • Conduct physical exams in the mother’s room.
  • Praise the mother for keeping her baby close.
  • Educate moms about the importance of rooming in with their baby.
  • Support policies and protocols that enable mothers and babies to stay together during the hospital stay.
  • Offer to help the mother manager visitors when she needs to feed the baby.
  • Conduct routine nursing tasks in the mother-baby room.
  • When performing tasks such as bathing the baby, allow the mother to watch and/or help so she can gain confidence doing it herself.
  • If the baby and mother must be apart for any reason, return the baby to the mother’s room as soon as possible.
  • If the baby cannot return to mother’s room, help mom spend time with her baby at his bedside.
  • Suggest that the mother hold her baby skin to skin when blood tests and other painful procedures must be done.
  • Use the hospital period to teach mothers how to care for and comfort their newborn.
  • Refer moms having significant breastfeeding challenges to lactation experts on staff.
  • If mother and baby are separated more than one hour, help the mother hand express or pump her milk to remove colostrum and stimulate her milk supply.
  • Praise the mother and her champion as you observe them caring for the baby. Point out how the baby loves them and longs to be close.
Rooming in is not hard. You, your champion, and your hospital team will make it work together. After all, it’s your first chance to become a real family.

There’s no better way to bond with your new baby than to continue holding him skin to skin. Baby snuggles against your bare chest to keep warm and calm. In this peaceful state, baby becomes stable and feels safe. You and your partner can both do skin to skin in the early days to build a close family.

It’s easy! Just relax and let your baby lie on your bare chest when you can, for as long as you can.

Mom
  • Remove baby’s clothes except for his diaper.
  • Baby won’t need mittens. He needs to use his hands!
  • Place baby on his tummy against your bare chest, skin to skin.
  • Hold your baby skin to skin in your room, whenever you can.
  • Watch how baby wakes and shows when he’s ready to eat.
  • When you feel sleepy, move baby from your chest to a safe sleep place in his own bed.

Beyond the 1st Hour

Skin to skin is vital in the first hour. But don’t stop then! Continued skin to skin keeps your baby warm, stable, and calm. You can do it any time baby is cold or upset. Ask if you can hold baby skin to skin when hospital staff must do tests that upset him.

Make it Easy

Keep your baby’s crib close to your bed so you can reach him when you want. Or ask your champion to help you. Check his nose to be sure he can breathe. Then lie back a little and relax!

Stay Comfy

To keep you and your baby warm, place a blanket over your baby’s back. Make sure it does not cover your baby’s face. Pillows under your arm can give you some extra support.

  • I need a little time to get used to this new world.
  • These strange noises and people upset me.
  • You put me near your heart again and I can relax because I’m home.
  • I like to feel the skin of my dad and hear his heartbeat, too.

You can help make this time special for everyone.

  • Encourage visitors to give mom and baby some quiet time for skin to skin care.
  • Ask the staff not to disturb mom when they can.
  • Bring the baby to mom when she’s ready to hold him skin to skin.
  • If mom is sleepy, help move baby to a safe sleep space in his own bed, or do skin to skin yourself.
  • You can hold the baby skin to skin, too! Baby loves to be close to the people who love him most.

A Calm Room

You can help create a peaceful room for baby. Turn down the volume on the TV and dim the lights a little. Ask your nurse to help with quiet time so mom can rest. Your nurse can also talk with visitors to explain why you need quiet time.

Praise Mom!

Tell mom she’s doing a good job. Show her how her baby calms when he’s with her.

Give Mom a Break

Help mom care for the baby when she needs rest or a break. You can even hold the baby skin to skin, too.

You’ll love seeing how much your baby loves you and wants to be close.

  • Skin to skin is the perfect way to bond. You can’t get any closer than this!
  • You’ll be amazed at how calm your baby is.
  • It’s a magical way to settle him when he’s upset or in pain.
  • Skin to skin helps baby breastfeed better so your body can make plenty of milk.
  • Going home with your baby will be much easier for everyone!

Just Think!

While you were pregnant, your body met baby’s every need. Now that your baby is here, your body still meets your baby’s needs. With skin to skin your body gives warmth and food. It also gives him pain relief when tests must be done.

Magic Calming

You can keep holding baby skin to skin for as long as you want. It’s the perfect way to settle your baby when he’s upset. It also keeps his heart and breathing stable since his stress is lower.

Easier Breastfeeding

When baby is close to you skin to skin, he uses his natural instincts to breastfeed. He gives cues that he’s ready to eat and then latches by himself. When baby breastfeeds well, he gains weight and is less likely to be jaundiced. Your body also makes plenty of milk.

Others Want to Hold the Baby

It’s natural for family and friends to want to hold the baby, too. They can help by holding the baby when you need to rest or take a break. They can also hold baby after you have nursed him.

You are Modest

No worries! It’s easy to cover up when doing skin to skin. Place a baby blanket across baby’s back to cover you both. You can also pull up your bed sheet or blanket.

You Have a C-Section

Try placing your baby sideways across your chest while you are sore. Or place a small pillow over your belly. Ask your champion to bring the baby to you if it’s hard to get in and out of bed. Others can also hold him skin to skin if you are not able to for a while.

There are Staff Interruptions

Doctors and nurses will need to check on you and the baby throughout the day and night. Ask if the check-ups can be done while the baby is skin to skin with you. You can also ask your nurse for some alone time or quiet hours each day so you and baby can rest.

Will I spoil my baby?

Holding a baby does not spoil him. Instead, it makes him feel loved and secure. Babies are upset easily by their new world. Being close to people who love him helps your baby feel safe.

How long should I do skin to skin?

As long and as much as you want! This is your special time to relax and enjoy your baby. All that closeness will help baby fall in love with you and his family. You can continue skin to skin once you are home, too.

Should I schedule the baby’s feedings?

With skin to skin you don’t need to worry about when to feed the baby. Your baby will feed whenever he needs to. Babies who are fed on a schedule often do not gain weight well and have more problems learning how to feed. Instead, let your baby take the lead.

What if I am not going to breastfeed?

All babies do better when they are close to mom, no matter how they are fed.

Is it safe to handle my baby in my room?

The safest place for your baby is with you! Keep the baby’s crib right near your bed so you can easily get your baby in and out. If you feel dizzy, ask your champion to bring the baby to you. If you ever worry whether you can handle your baby safely, always ask for help.

I’m not sure I want to breastfeed.

Rooming-in is good for all babies and moms, no matter how they are fed. Every baby needs to feel warm and secure in the arms of his mother. And all moms want a baby who is happier and more content.
  • Support skin to skin policies throughout the postpartum period.
  • Assure that all staff who care for new families are trained in the importance of skin to skin and how to support it.
  • When making rounds, encourage mothers to hold their baby skin to skin.
  • Conduct exams while the baby is in skin to skin with mom.
  • If baby is not already skin to skin with the mother, suggest she do it while conducting the exam, or as a calming measure after the exam.
  • Encourage the mother to hold her baby skin to skin during and after painful procedures, after the bath, and other disruptions.
  • Suggest that parents consider skin to skin as a tool to use at home to warm and calm the baby.
  • Support skin to skin policies throughout the postpartum period.
  • Teach mothers the importance of frequent skin to skin in the first weeks of the baby’s life.
  • Help moms find comfortable ways to hold their baby skin to skin after a C-section.
  • Conduct routine procedures while the baby is skin to skin when possible.
  • Minimize interruptions. Consider a quiet period for moms and babies.
  • Show mothers how skin to skin helps calm their baby and encourage breastfeeding behaviors.
Continuous skin to skin is easy! All you do is relax and cuddle your baby. Your hospital staff will help make this a time you’ll treasure forever.

Having a new baby is one of life’s greatest joys. It can also be tiring when there are lots of people, noise, flashing cameras, and activity. A quiet hour is a special time each day for you and your champion to take a break from visitors to be alone with the baby. You’ll cherish this time to bond and become a family. It’s also your chance to catch up on needed rest.

Just ask visitors to step away for an hour or two each day you are at the hospital.

Mom
  • Select a time ach day to be alone with your champion and the baby.
  • Tell your family and friends about the quiet time you chose before you have your baby so they are prepared.
  • When your quiet period arrives, remind visitors that you’re ready for your time alone with baby.
  • Ask your champion to help you dim the lights and close the curtains. Turn down the TV.
  • Hold your baby skin to skinand enjoy this time of bonding and rest.

Creating Calm

Ask for an hour or two each day where you will not be disturbed. Your champion or a nurse can help you turn down noise and lights. Ask the staff for a “Do Not Disturb” sign to hang outside the door.

Quiet for All

When your room is quiet, it helps create calm for other moms and babies nearby, too. When everyone respects quiet hours, new families are happier and more rested.

  • During quiet time, I am comforted when I snuggle close to you.
  • When it’s quiet, I can hear the sounds of your heart beat and your breathing.
  • I feel you relax, and my heart rate slows to match yours.
  • I’m happy and content.

As mom’s champion, you can enjoy quiet time with mom and baby.

  • Tell family and friends that your family needs a little alone time each day.
  • Invite visitors to grab a bite to eat or visit in the waiting room during quiet time.
  • Help mom get comfortable so she can rest.
  • Relax so you can rest, too.
  • Enjoy this quiet time with mom and the baby.

The Best Gifts

Flowers and baby gifts are great. So are visits from family and friends to celebrate the new baby’s birth. But you and mom also needs the gift of quiet time to rest and bond. Quiet time to rest will help mom heal so everyone is ready to go home with baby.

Talk with Visitors

As mom’s champion, let family and friends know you need some quiet time to rest. Ask your nurse if you need help explaining things to visitors.

Enjoy Quiet

Stay in the room with mom and baby during quiet hours. Dim the lights and turn down noise. Then find a place where you can rest, too. During quiet hours, you and mom can spend time bonding with and enjoying the baby.

You may find that “quiet hours” is the very best part of your day! It’s your chance to unwind from the excitement and be close to your baby in a calm and peaceful place.

  • It’s an amazing time for you and your baby to bond.
  • You’ll both sleep better and feel more refreshed.
  • You’ll heal more quickly from the birth.
  • It lowers your stress levels.
  • It also lowers your baby’s stress so he can grow and develop better.

Newborns Need Quiet

New babies need quiet and calm in the first few weeks so they can grow. A noisy hospital room can make them anxious and fussy. When it is quiet and peaceful, their stress levels go down. This helps their brains develop better. It also helps their heart and breathing become stable.

Moms Need Quiet

New moms need quiet and calm, too. Rest helps you heal from the birth more quickly. It helps you gain energy so you are ready to care for your baby at home. This is also a great time to breastfeed when you and baby are calm.

Best of All

Quiet time is a chance to push the pause button. In the midst of all the hospital action, this is your special time to relax as a family. Use it to enjoy your baby and marvel at how wondrous he is.

Family and Friends Want to Be in Your Room

You’ll want to see your family and friends to share your joy and feel their love. But your body also needs a time out each day to rest and heal. Don’t be shy about telling visitors you need rest each day.

Your Hospital Doesn’t have Official Quiet Hours

If the hospital does not have standard “quiet hours” for new moms, it’s okay to request it. Talk with your doctor while you are pregnant. Your champion can also help you talk with your nurse about your needs after the baby is born.

You Need Special Help

If you had a C-section or need special help, ask your champion to stay in the room with you.

Should my baby go to the nursery?

Your baby calms best when he is in your arms, skin to skin. And you and your baby get better sleep when youstay close. Use quiet hours to get to know your baby and to bond. It’s also a great time to practice breastfeeding while you and baby are relaxed.

Can I still call a nurse if I need help?

Yes! Any time you need help, you can request that a nurse come into your room.

How will my family know about quiet hours?

Ask if your hospital has info to share with your family. If not, you or your champion can talk with them. You can also ask a nurse to tell them about quiet time. It’s best to talk about it before you have your baby so everyone is prepared.

Can I have quiet time at other times?

Any time you feel the need for a time out, don’t be shy about speaking up.
  • Support policies and practices that allow for quiet hours in the postpartum unit.
  • Schedule visits and check-ups before and after quiet hours.
  • Educate moms about the importance of quiet hours so she can heal properly and baby can grow and develop.
  • If a mother’s room is noisy, suggest that family and friends give mom a little quiet time to rest.
  • Support policies and practices that allow for quiet hours in the postpartum unit.
  • Schedule check-ups and procedures before and after quiet hours.
  • Educate moms and their family members about the importance of quiet hours.
  • Encourage moms to hold their baby skin to skin and rest during quiet hours and beyond.
  • Help mothers make their room conducive to rest if needed.
  • Help the champion talk with family members about quiet time, if needed.
  • Provide “Do not disturb” signage to hang outside patient doors during quiet time.
  • Keep staff conversations to a minimum during quiet hours.
Quiet time isn’t hard to do or to request. Enjoying it is even easier!
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